Best wishes, Peggy Peggy called me today. She is moving back to Taiwan for work. She called to say goodbye. I met Peggy in 1995 when I was in upstate NY for graduate work. We met at a student association dinner. At the time, Peggy's husband was president of the association. When they had dinners, I'd get invited. When I first met Peggy, she had decided to return to school for her doctorate. I was a graduate student at the time. We both had curve balls thrown at us from different directions. Now, she's almost finished, and already has a job offer. Through the curve balls life threw at us, Peggy helped me with her humor, compassion, and strength. I hope I was as good a friend to her as she was to me. I hope Peggy knows how important she has been in my life. Not only because she is a friend, but she was the first woman I trusted to be a friend. Having "mother issues" made me apprehensive of friendship with women. I took that "first step" of trust with Peggy. Peggy helped me again, about children, when she first became pregnant. I learned to look at the world from a child's viewpoint, and appreciate how hard it can sometimes be, to be a child. There are friends you talk to or email with everyday, but you don't feel close to them. There are friends you keep in touch mostly in your heart (because of distancey,) but you pick upas if you've never left. Peggy is one of those rare jewels who never strays far from my heart. I love the person she is, I love her friendship, and I love her. Peggy, I also feel very sad, and I have tears in my eyes. But I am so happy for this new transition in your life. I wish you the very best, because you deserve all the best in the world. Copyright (c) 2001-2009 by Jane Chin, All Rights Reserved. Back to Rate of Attrition